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Kids are curious. Very curious. And we like that, we want that, we encourage that. Curiosity leads to interest, to learning, to an engaged child. But what if it leads to something else? Is that curiosity actually masking anxiety? Continue reading below to discover how you can identify anxiety in children through the questions that they ask.
HOW TO IDENTIFY ANXIETY IN CHILDREN THROUGH THEIR QUESTIONS
It took me a while to notice, to see that there was something else going on in my little girl’s head – to see that her questions were morphing into something slightly different. When her “how does or what is” shifted into more “what if’s”. What if this happens, what if that happens.
What if’s can hide – or reveal – fears. My daughter needed to know what’s happening, when. Change of plans agitated her; then she’d wonder what if it doesn’t go as planned? What if something goes wrong?
Many anxious kids have good imaginations and yes, she has a huge imagination! I just love all the creativity bursting out of her. I want to bottle it up sometimes so I can let it out and breathe some joy into the world. But when her imagination starts filling in questions with worst-case scenarios, I think uh-oh. Now, what do I do?
HOW TO HELP AN ANXIOUS CHILD
Well, it turns out what we don’t want to do is tell her not to worry. Honestly, that helps practically nobody, ever. In fact when I tried that — because of course, it’s the first thing I did – she just took the imagined outcome further and further. Finally, I realized that instead of my just saying “it’s ok” and “don’t worry about it”, I should take another tack.
So I try walking her through whatever the fear is to get her to reassure herself. Sometimes if it’s easy, I just talk her through the fear to show her she is ok and does have the strength to handle it. Often she’s not feeling confident or is out of her comfort zone. I say, “Looks like you’re pretty worried about this, what can we do to help calm you down? “ Sometimes she can bring herself back with that. Sometimes we have to dance or stomp it out. And other times it comes down to breathing. Just breathing with her. In and out, ever so slowly.
So notice the questions your child is asking; ask some of your own. There are many, many answers.
But expecting them to just get over it, isn’t one of them.
How To Get Your Child Through An Anxiety Attack
As a parent, having a child with anxiety can be very hard at times. Your heart breaks for them, and yet you are also feeling the effects from the anxiety. Here are two incredibly helpful articles to shed light on how to best help your child during and after the anxiety attack. Best of luck – you got this!
In this article Dana provides insight into how you can help your child cope with their anxiety and shift your family dynamics
Here are expert tips for helping your child calm down in the midst of their anxiety and panic attacks
Featured Contributor: Dana Baker
Dana Baker is a writer, editor, not-so-perfect mom of two, and a Parent and Teen Coach. She help families reconnect and find a way around the walls that cause such isolation and dysfunction in these years. Dana offers advice from the trenches, a non-judgmental ear and tips/feedback based on the science of psychology and the reality of parenting. Read her blog and follow her on social media.
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